You’re not alone.

An amazing woman friend reminded me this morning how so many of us are looking for a neon sign that signals to us it’s ok to be who we are.

This theme comes up so often in conversations with clients.

She described – with exquisite accuracy – the experience of being highly sensitive in a world where the trait of high sensitivity isn’t valued.

A world of being told “You’re too sensitive.”, “You’re seeing things that aren’t there.”, “You’re feeling things that aren’t there.” A culture invalidating our experiences as highly sensitive people who do indeed see and feel more and differently than 80% of the rest of the world.

She rang the truth of her experience and rattled my bones in a moment when I was struggling to write a post for this week.

I could feel words of consequence bubbling inside but what came out of my fingers were soft words, quiet words, words of gratitude.

Those are never a bad thing, and they were true, but they were not the words that burned. They were acceptable words. Unchallenging words. And those were not the words I needed to say.

I needed to ring the truth of my own experience as a woman who has waited for a neon sign giving me permission to be myself. The truth that says we can’t do this alone.

High-sensitivity is a gift that, in this culture, requires a community of solidarity to practice.

So for everyone out there who sees and hears and feels something different than the rest of the world, who knows that their senses are feeding them information that other people see and hear and feel less intensely, if at all, know that you’re not alone. Know that there’s a community of people out here who do experience the world like you do.

Twenty percent of us are highly sensitive people, according to Elaine Aron’s research.

We need to affirm each other’s experience, because it can be so easy to feel like you’re the only one. So easy to believe the people who are telling you that you don’t feel what you feel.

What’s true is we have an essential role to play in our culture. We have a perspective that is unique and necessary to the survival of our species. We’re not crazy. We’re not overly sensitive. We are exactly who we need to be. Who we were made to be.

If you’re one of the people who are waiting for a neon sign, maybe this is it.

Check out the work of Elaine Aron on highly sensitive people.

Believe your senses.

Trust yourself.

Find a community of support. My newsletter is a good place to start, if you’re a body-centered practitioner or a highly sensitive women entrepreneur.

The world needs our gift of high sensitivity now more than ever.

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