Take up space … please

“We cannot change the way the world is, but by opening to the world as it is we may discover that gentleness, decency and bravery are available, not only to us, but to all human beings**.”

Chogyam Trungpa, Buddhist teacher
(**I would say “to all beings.” We are interdependent and interwoven…we cannot leave wild nature out of the equation anymore.)

I’m slowly reading – or maybe experiencing is a better word –  Margaret J. Wheatley’s book “Who Do We Choose To Be?”  It’s one of those books that offers unglazed reality so wisely, with such compassion, that I cannot rush through, nor can I stop. I keep going back to read bits over and let them sink deeper into my body.

The words are jiggling loose unconscious assumptions – holding up uncomfortable truth with such clarity I find myself drawing closer, rather than turning away.

Her subtitle really gets to the heart of what she explores in this work, “Facing Reality. Claiming Leadership. Restoring Sanity.”

The world has been feeling like a pretty intense and insane place lately.

That’s why I’m asking … encouraging … imploring you, body-wise, highly sensitive, multipotentialed folks to take up space.

Let me explain…

The more intense the world feels, the more likely we are to retreat – anemone-like – into ourselves. Staying present feels hard. Taking up more space than usual – harder. It seems to be the opposite of what feels safe and looks sensible.

Yet, our ability to sense underlying emotions, to observe and absorb information others are not seeing, to deeply process and integrate all that input and see long-range possible outcomes not obvious to 80% of the world — that’s the role we play for our species. That’s what we’re wired to do.

So especially now, when western cultures are locked into extremes of behavior and beliefs, retreating into lizard-brained survival mode, now is when our trait is deeply needed. When our leadership is deeply needed.

Taking up space becomes both revolutionary and evolutionary. Literally evolutionary, in the biologic sense.

Janine Benyus said, “Life creates circumstances conducive to life.” Ecosystems – and human communities are absolutely ecosystems – respond to threats to life by evolving new resiliency strategies…by foregrounding the members who enhance life-affirming acts. When we take up space, we’re creating circumstances conducive to life.

We love, we empathize, we feel what’s happening to our communities in our marrow. AND…we are uniquely qualified to midwife small, local changes that will make a difference.

We do it every day when we use the gift of our differentness in our practices, easing people who are suffering.

“So much is possible if we consciously and wisely choose how best to step forward as leaders for this time.” M. Wheatley

So, I’m standing here taking up some space … wanna join me at the next Highly Sensitive Women’s Leadership Circle?

Space is limited to 25 participants.  Please join and RSVP through the Meetup Group.

Meeting dates and topics:

April 2018 – FREE Introductory Talk

May 2018 – Boundaries and Why No is Hard

June 2018 – Managing Empathy Overload

July 2018 – FREE Viewing of “Sensitive: The Movie”

August 2018 – Unpacking “Shoulds”

September 2018 – Discovering Your Unique Blend of HSP Gifts

October 2018 – FREE Introductory Talk

November 2018 – Unpacking & Redefining Leadership as an HSP

December 2018 – Managing Sensory Overload at the Holidays

January 2019 – FREE Viewing of “Sensitive: The Movie”

February 2019 – Returning to our Senses Mini-Retreat

March 2019 – Visioning our Ideal Future


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