You can love them and still want them to leave….

 

I posted this on Facebook on the day an extended family visit ended:

Looking forward to a quiet day restoring my home to its usual energy of semi-messy sacred space. I love seeing my family. And, I need the rhythm of everyday tasks to recover my center after so much go-go-go. There are poems brewing and workshop ideas simmering. They are whispering… “…solitude, spaciousness, unfettered attention…this is what we require of you…”

When you’re highly sensitive you live with the weird push-pull paradox of, “I love you and I love being with you. Will you please leave, now?” And, it’s OK. Not easy. Certainly daunting to try to explain. But, OK.

A strategy that works for me is knowing my sustainable limits. Setting those boundaries at the outset. Building in recovery time.  “I’d love to see the Barnes Museum with you! We could spend about 2 hours there, then meet later for dinner.”

Are you OK with the push-pull? What are your sustainability strategies?

 

 

Monday Moorings: You are enough

The truth is, you are a pulsing, moving, flowing explosion of LIFE’s juicy creativity every moment of every day. Even on tired, crappy mornings or stressed-out crazy ones. Tuck that in your heart and use it to keep perspective. ‘Cause we all lose if you aren’t fiercely being who you are, doing what you do.

So…to expand your resilience today:

Place your feet** firmly sole to soil, sand, or stone. Place them and become exquisitely aware of every tiny point of contact between you and the ground. Feel those points of contact expand, deepen, and merge.

Breathe this in…. You are wildness. You are love. You are sunlight, rain, sand, stone, mist and great trees standing true and whole.

You are. And that is enough.

** If feet on the ground isn’t possible, hands on the earth works. Or hands on a lovely stone in your lap. Or cheek to stone, sand or soil. Basically, put whatever part of your body you are able into contact with the earth in some form. 

Monday Moorings are quickly read morsels of thought, ideas, perspective shifts, and self-care practices inviting you to moor yourself into your gifts of high sensitivity, multipotentialism, and introversion. Published (nearly) every Monday.

Our greatest challenge is our greatest gift

“Trees are the earth’s endless effort to speak to the listening heaven.” ~ Rabindranath Tagore

As a child, I used to climb the huge white pine tree next to our home. I’d cling to the trunk like a little girl barnacle as the wind blew and the tree swayed. I was convinced tree and sky were telling each other stories, and if I just listened closely enough, I’d be able to hear the stories, too. The mystery of their more-than-human conversations nourished my child imagination — and eased the ache of feeling like an outsider.

I still listen to the conversations happening all around me among the nature beings with whom I share an ecosystem. I’ve found that I do understand their language…if I listen with all of my senses, and if I’m willing to surrender into sound and rhythm, rather than needing words.

And, there it is again….the beauty in being gifted as highly sensitive, the wonder created by the intense curiosity of being multipotentialed.

The way we perceive the world can be our greatest challenge…AND our greatest joy. What do you think? Any stories out there you’d like to hear?

Monday Moorings are quickly read morsels of thought, ideas, perspective shifts, and self-care practices inviting you to moor yourself into your gifts of high sensitivity, multipotentialism, and introversion. Published (nearly) every Monday.

Monday Moorings: Water? Really?

“Our energies might be traveling out of our brains and bodies and into those of other living beings of all kinds through imprints on this magical substance. The oceans and rivers and rains might be transporting all manner of information throughout the world.” Diana Rico in her article “Scientists investigate water memory.”

Isn’t that a wonderfully intriguing idea? That this substance so essential to staying nourished – indeed to staying alive – may carry your imprint to the other side of the world? It’s an idea that invites us to consider all sorts of possibilities.

Drinking a glass of water can become an experience of mindful gratitude for not just the water molecules our bodies need to survive, but also for the sense of communion with others.

An ocean swim can become a prayer sent into the world just because we’ve infused our presence into the water.

I also love how, in the video, the scientist from the Aerospace Institute of the University of Stuttgart in Germany theorizes that oceans become things that join us, rather than divide us. That rain could be a source of data transmission.

Can you imagine listening that closely to raindrops? Gathering in the presences with which they are imprinted? The curious child in me imagines that if I’m mindfully aware enough, I might just decipher some of that information the next time I drink a sip of water, or stand in the rain. What does your curious child imagine?

Monday Moorings are quickly read morsels of thought, ideas, perspective shifts, and self-care practices inviting you to moor yourself into your gifts of high sensitivity, multipotentialism, and introversion. Published (nearly) every Monday.

Monday Moorings: the beauty of small things

May you find beauty and wonder
in small things today

in the blessing of a blade of grass
a tight-furled bud
a tiny quartz crystal
the whorl of tree bark
the feathers on the face of a bird

each of these things are miraculous
in their own way
perfectly balanced designs
from the intelligence
of the earth

may you find beauty and wonder
in the perfect design of
your own eyes
your own heart
your own sensitive spirit

I invite you to take these words in deeply…right into your bones and let them linger there. If you would like something to “do” beyond that – I suggest some form of creative expression. Journaling, drawing, dancing or movement, music or sound.

Monday Moorings are quickly read morsels of thought, ideas, perspective shifts, and self-care practices inviting you to moor yourself into your gifts of high sensitivity, multipotentialism, and introversion. Published (nearly) every Monday.

Monday Moorings: mother nature meets mind chatter

My mind is often the trickiest part of myself to nourish. It tends to get cluttered and overworked, managing tons of details.

It also becomes a haven for worry and seems to attract other people’s “stuff” until I’m overflowing. (Highly sensitive friends, I’ll bet you know exactly how this feels.)

When I need a good attic clearing, I use this simple practice. I invite you to try it, if the idea makes your heart sing.

Find a place to sit or stand uninterrupted for a few minutes. Outside is best, but an indoor space can work, too.

Let your breath settle into a comfortable pattern for you.

Close your eyes and focus on your sense of touch.

What do you notice first? Temperature? The sensation of the air on your skin? How supported you feel by the earth under you? (Indoors or outdoors, the earth is always – and quite literally – supporting you.)

Continue becoming more deeply aware of the sensation of your body in relationship with the world around you.

Rest into that feeling.

When you feel “finished” (yes, you will know when that happens) open your eyes and, if it feels right, offer a little gratitude to your body and the natural world for this sensory experience. 

And now for the best part….go enjoy your peaceful mind! 

Monday Moorings are quickly read morsels of thought, ideas, perspective shifts, and self-care practices inviting you to moor yourself into your gifts of high sensitivity, multipotentialism, and introversion. Published (nearly) every Monday.

Monday Moorings: finding your groove = finding your way

We spend every day awash in natural rhythms. Inner rhythms like our heartbeat and breathing. Crossover inner/outer rhythms like our sleep/awake cycle influenced by the planetary rhythm of day/night, and ecosystem rhythms like ocean tides and seasons.

Each of us feels the effects of these rhythms uniquely. Some may be comforting, some calming, and some are invigorating or spark creativity or productivity.

So, each of us has a native cycle of natural rhythms that nourish us, fan our creative fire, support our spiritual connection, spark our intuition, ground us so we can take care of pragmatic things.

By noticing when in our days, or during the week or month or year we are most able to be creative, focus on detail work, sink into contemplation or meditation, engage in physical activity, clear things – or ideas – out,  we can begin to consciously live within our native rhythms. And, we will struggle less in our lives.

For example, after years of trying to get up and write in the morning, I realized that my creativity comes alive between 2:30 and 3:30 in the afternoon. Now, rather than bang my head on the keyboard for a few badly cobbled paragraphs I work with my natural rhythm and write in the afternoon. I spend less time, am much less frustrated, and produce writing that feels good.

So, if it makes your heart sing (because singing hearts are the best kind 😉 ) why not find your groove by noticing your own natural rhythms?

Here’s a little natural rhythm to get your day started off right…

https://playingforchange.com/videos/one-love/

Monday Moorings are quickly read morsels of thought, ideas, perspective shifts, and self-care practices inviting you to moor yourself into your gifts of high sensitivity, multipotentialism, and introversion. Published (nearly) every Monday.

Monday Moorings: a new perspective

Sometimes when life has tossed a challenge at me, I get stuck in hamster-wheel thinking. Churning the same thoughts and beliefs around and around. “Squeak, squeak, squeak…” Reaching the same conclusions over and over until I just wish I could pop my head off, give it a good shake, and snow-globe myself into a different perspective.

Since popping my head off isn’t a viable option, I do the next best thing. I literally change my perspective by changing my body posture. I find a new rhythm with it. I might lay down and gaze up at the knotty issue from the bottom. Or take a walk and look at it sideways. Maybe ease into Downward Facing Dog and see it upside down.

Changing my position relative to the issue helps me see what I’ve been seeing all along in a whole new way. And that can lead to a juicy “Ah-Ha!” moment.

Monday Moorings are quickly read morsels of thought, ideas, perspective shifts, and self-care practices inviting you to moor yourself into your gifts of high sensitivity, multipotentialism, and introversion. Published (nearly) every Monday.

Monday Moorings: Curiosity = radical self-care

“Either we can retreat to the safety of our familiar opinions, or we can become curious.” ~ Margaret Wheatley & Deborah Frieze, from their book Walk Out Walk On  http://www.walkoutwalkon.net/

I’ve been reading the book “Walk Out Walk On” which is subtitled “A learning journey into communities daring to live the future now.” It was the subtitle that captured my attention. My always alert curiosity just had to know what “living the future now” meant. It turns out it means being willing to live and learn in refreshing new ways.

I’ll let the book explain… “Walk Outs are people who bravely choose to leave behind a world of unsolvable problems, scarce resources, limiting beliefs and destructive individualism. They walk on to the ideas, beliefs and practices that enable them to give birth to new systems that serve community. This is the story of an emerging movement of pioneering leaders and communities around the world who are self-organizing to create healthy and resilient communities.”

Their stories go beyond inspiring. They make me uncomfortable — in a good way. They help  me to see where my own story could use some expanding and changing…where I could shift out of certainty into curiosity and learn and live in radically new ways. The book is combining several things about which I’m passionate: learning, a systems approach to community change, and making the world a better place.

Curiosity and the desire to learn are foundational traits of both highly sensitive and multipotentialed people. Consciously playing with them — stretching into new ideas and perspectives — these are acts of radical self-care for people like us.

So, wander through a library or bookstore, follow an internet rabbit hole or two (set a timer or have a friend pull you out if you tend to get totally lost) or start some intriguing conversations with friends…or strangers. Nourish yourself the way your sensitive, renaissance soul needs you to.

Monday Moorings are quickly read morsels of thought, ideas, perspective shifts, and self-care practices inviting you to moor yourself into your gifts of high sensitivity, multipotentialism, and introversion. Published (nearly) every Monday.